Resources for Allies
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Stand up and speak out
Trans kids should not have to advocate for themselves or explain their existence. Their parents are not always able to speak out publicly out of concern for their children’s privacy. You can help.
If you work for a publicly-facing or serving organization, make sure that their LGBTQ policy is public and easy to find. If you don’t have a statement of support, write one and post it.
If you work in any capacity at a school, share these LGBTQ student rights (backed by CA Ed Code)
If someone says something ignorant or offensive about trans people in your presence, speak up. Respectfully correct misunderstandings and offer information. Know your rights.
If an individual or organization is preemptively complying with the executive orders (that are not legally binding) , call them out on it if it is safe for you to do so.
Hang a pride progress flag (support trans creators) or wear a pin to show trans kids they are safe with you.
Stay Informed
It’s tempting to stay away from the news when it is so disheartening. But staying informed helps you speak up to support. It also takes the burden of providing education and information off of trans kids and their families.
Be aware that the NYT reporting (and other sources) are deeply biased against trans issues
Subscribe to Erin in the morning, Them, or @queernewsdaily
Follow trans creators and advocacy organizations (list is in progress)
Read He/She/They or Gender Explained and American Teenager to learn about trans youth
Read research about gender affirming care and a member’s op-ed to combat misinformation
Get the facts on trans athletes from Schuyler Bailar and John Oliver
Act
Attacks on the trans community are changing and increasing every day of this new administration. It makes a difference when your elected representatives hear your comments. It slows down the legislative process and shows them that issues are urgent to their constituents. Please don’t stop contacting them!
Protest the California Interscholastic Federation (CIF)’s transphobic policy change enacted May 2025
Contact your Senators and urge them to invoke the Byrd Rule to protect access to gender affirming care
Protest the termination of affirming care at CHLA and tell Newsom to prioritize funding for LGBTQ health
Urge your Senators to block the confirmation of Bill Essayli
Oppose HR 3492 which would jail parents and providers for seeking or providing gender affirming care.
Demand the Senate oppose any budget with discriminatory exclusions of transition-related healthcare.
Support SB 59 in California which protects privacy by sealing records of gender marker changes
Protest the removal of trans people from LGBTQIIA+ history at Stonewall on the National Park site
If your family is associated with a youth sports club, send this letter and urge them to take a stand
Support
If you can, please give to these organizations who are working tirelessly to fight the administration and to keep the community informed: ACLU, Lambda Legal, Transgender Law Center, NCLR, Open Books, Queer Trans Project, Elevated Access, TGIJP, Trans Justice, Trans Youth Emergency Project and mutual aid societies.
Get in touch.
Rainbow Families Action is a group of parents of trans youth and their allies in the San Francisco Bay Area and beyond. We came together in response to increased attacks on trans youth. RFA builds a world where trans and gender expansive youth can live authentically and freely. We engage in collective advocacy, mutual aid, and creative action.